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Wednesday afternoon, an old-time friend saw me around our house. She was shocked to see me, and I knew these questions were coming. When did you get home? Why didn’t you stay in the USA, it’s better there?

Several folks have bombarded me with these questions and similar ones since July thereabout. It used to be a sad question to be asked some months ago, it got me worried, and I couldn’t handle the matter appropriately.

Anytime I was asked, I would answer, “I love Nigeria, that’s why I am home.” Pretty shallow answer if you ask me now, but that was my best bet then. It shut the door for further questions, and I preferred It that way.

Why I didn't stay in the USA

Looking back now, I am glad I was worried and sad because those emotions led me to find answers to this frequently asked question.

Why was this question a bother you might ask.

Well, most people, if not all, expected me to complete my Pharmacy School Program before coming home. Some even preferred I secure a job before the thought of coming back. If I wanted to go home, they didn’t expect it to be for long. Maybe for a short while, and then I am back in the States to further my education. That was my initial plan, too, so I blame no-one for their expectations.

So why are you still in Nigeria?

I am still in Nigeria because I love Nigeria, haha! Yea, yea, we know that already, Ruth!Okay, let me cut to the chase. I am still in Nigeria because of reasons that were not obvious to me until mid-November, 2019. I needed to grow, regain lost strength, and impact more lives. I am still in Nigeria because it fits into God’s plan for my life.


After a few months of being asked the same question over and over again, I decided to give the matter more thought. The first thing I realized was if I had not been in Nigeria at this point, I wouldn’t have; given my blog this much attention. The attention I gave to the blog led to the introduction of the SARM Book Club, a program I am happy to have started. Also, I wouldn’t have developed my reading skills, which inspired the Book Club idea.

Aside from the Book Club, I also started the SARMLife Digital Skills Internship, and the SARMLife Sponsorship Program. These two initiatives have blessed the lives of many Nigerians, and staying in the USA might have given me a minimal chance of impacting these many lives.

Finally, I wouldn’t have met some fantastic people like Oreoluwa, Doyin, Dimeji, Angela, Ogem, Caron, Racheal, and the list goes on.

The content of my blog has been a blessing to several people from different parts of the world, and I am grateful that I yielded to God when He instructed I stay back even though it wasn’t an easy decision to make.

I am now a co-founder of an Organization called SHUN-STIGMA, and being a part of this organization led to the decision to create awareness for HIV/AIDS on my blog. If I were in the United States, I wouldn’t have had the time to devote to all of this.

Stay in the USA

As I begin to conclude, I’d like to share my last thought.

Being in Nigeria, at this point, made me realize that the strength of an individual is in the company he/she keeps. While I was in the states, I was perceived as strong even I thought that I was strong. Until I came home, and situations led me away from my family, I realized how weak I was.
There and then, I knew that I wasn’t strong all by myself, and no-one is.

Yes, I have learned a lot, I am still growing, and I am humbled to say that I have impacted more lives by agreeing with God to be in my home country at this point.

Remember, the fact that everyone thinks a thing is bad for you doesn’t mean it’s bad for you.

Enjoy your day and bye for now.

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  1. soundos says:

    very nice blog.

  2. Thanks for this! Many people like to impose their opinions on us. They think they know what is best for us. Above all, as an individual know what you want and go for it.

    1. No one can know what’s best for you except God and yourself. People can only share their suggestions. Thanks for reading.

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