While doing my research, I stumbled on Brian Tracy’s thought that successful people maintain a high level of “inter-personal intelligence” because they interact with other people. In plain terms, it means without constant interaction with intelligent people, a person’s success rate might decline over time.
In a learning institution, the success of a student, most of the time, is dependent on their interaction with their intelligent colleagues or professors. You would agree with me that most of the “not-so-bright” students, while you were in school, remain so, not because they don’t study hard but because they failed to connect with the right people.
“I have seen first-hand how building connections with the right people can make a person’s life better.”
Building useful connections does not necessarily mean you have to be close friends; neither does it mean you are ripping the other person off. You both understand that connecting can either help one or both parties attain a higher level of intelligence, and you are ready to make the required sacrifices.
Forbes even mentioned that “relationship building is the best career shortcut.” You wonder why your friend keeps getting opportunities at work while you get nothing, check his acquaintances. This is not to say that you start to chit-chat at workplace, no, but a simple gesture of getting your colleague a cupcake can go a long way. Remember what Maya Angelou said,
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
This discussion reminds me of the movie I watched a few days ago. The title of the film is “Late Night by Nisha Ganatra,” and I recommend it if you want to have a better understanding of how a kind gesture can make you the most-wanted worker at your workplace. Of course, you have to be smart at the same time, but I guess you wouldn’t have gotten the job if you were not.
So back to the movie, Molly Patel (Mindy Kaling) just got the job of her dreams at Katherine Newbury’s (Emma Thompson) TV show, and she was the happiest person alive.As the naturally nice lady she is, she brought cupcakes to work (male-dominated by the way) on her first day, and no one looked at her. She was always giving useful comments and recommendations but got ignored, maybe because she was new and the only female writer.
After several horrible ordeals like being fired from the same job, Katherine had to apologize to get her back. She did not apologize because she is that smart; she did so because Molly was close to Katherine and had made several others feel her presence while she was on the job.
I am sure you understand my point in all of this. Sometimes, those friendly gestures might not get acknowledgment at first in fact, building connections isn’t the easiest thing to do, particularly with knuckleheads, but when you know why you need that connection, better push harder (in a polite way). Sooner or later, both parties will come to realize the importance of what one of them has been fighting for.
I don’t want to bore you any further, but it will be useful to paraphrase my advice in short and sweet sentences.
Do you still wonder how relating with other people can help you? Read the points below.
Building meaningful connections increases your chance of becoming;
- a more successful businessman
- a brighter student, and
- a reputable co-worker among other things
It is no longer shocking that people like Dangote, Bill Gates, and Oprah Winfrey, to mention a few, keep doing better. The simple truth is: they move and interact with people that increase their inter-personal intelligence.
It won’t be wrong to join the clique too. You know what to do!
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